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I know being a gay, single or adoptive dad might not be the 2.4 that many people are used to. And that’s fine, but we are in 2016… yet we still get the most random questions thrown at us at times. Don’t get me wrong,  I welcome questions. Sometimes they are very sincere and they want to know about our journey and how we came to be a family. And then sometimes they are just plain crazy from strangers in the supermarket. I am (most of the time) polite… but sometimes i just want to answer using the below…

  1. What’s it like being a gay dad in particular? Pretty much the same as being, oh you know, A DAD!
  2. What if your child is gay? You say it like it’s a bad thing?
  3. Your child could be straight, how will you handle that being a gay man yourself? I don’t know. I mean… just the thought of a man and woman together? It’s simply bizarre!
  4. Where did you get the baby from? We just placed an order online, as you do.
  5. Aren’t you worried that your child will be bullied? Not espeically… I’m hoping parents today will raise their children to be tolerant of diversity and different shaped families. What is ‘normal’ after all?
  6. What does your son call you? Um… Daddy, duh!
  7. Which one is the mum? *silence*
  8. What about his ‘real’ parents? *silence and gritted teeth*
  9. I know a gay couple who adopted, you might know them? Sure, we’re all part of the same ‘I’m gay and want to be a dad’ club.
  10. Don’t you think your son needs a mum/female figure? This is why all gay/single dads are gods amongst men. They have to fulfil the masculine and the feminine role. The softer, nurturing mother and the wrestle buddy, rough housing daddy. It ain’t easy!!

The end.

Have you ever been asked questions related to being a gay/straight/bi/trans/single/alien parent that you had no idea how to respond to? Please share, i’d love to hear them!

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Hi I'm Tom. I'm a dad. An adoptive dad. A gay dad. Not your 'normal' dad perhaps? My husband and I are two years into life life with our 3.5 yr old. The days of city breaks and long weekends eating out are long gone, but replaced with the great outdoors and running around after our little boy and splashing in muddy puddles. I wouldn't change it for the world. You can follow my blog at or find me on Facebook @unlikelydad

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