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How to avoid a Mother’s Day disaster

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Mother’s Day used to be simple.

You could grab a card at the last minute, maybe some flowers, then offer to make the first cup of tea of the day and that would be considered effort.

But with children, Mother’s Day morphs into a vortex that sucks in the lost souls of dads who sleepwalk towards this now most crucial of calendar dates.

You still have to remember your own mum but beyond that you now have to remember your wife on behalf of your children.

Now you’re probably thinking that this doesn’t sound so hard but add in a bit of sleep

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deprivation and getting this day right can be trickier than it might seem.

I speak from experience, from a dark time when our first daughter simply refused to look at the back of her eyelids for more than two hours at a time. My lackluster brain meant I precipitated over an omni-shambles of a Mother’s Day!

So I’m writing this to help those bleary eyed of you out there avoid a Mother’s Day disaster.

Fail to prepare – prepare to fail

It might only be just under two weeks away but there is still time to make Mother’s Day a success.

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You just need to start thinking about it NOW! A key part of any celebration tends to revolve around food at some point and Mother’s Day is no different.

Will you go out for food? If so, you need to book somewhere pronto. Will you stay in and eat? Then you better get that online shop done before there are no slots left and you have to shlep around the supermarket yourself.

You’re gonna need two cards

One for your mum (remember, I said don’t forget her!) and one for your other half. You’ll need to write a heartfelt message on one half of

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the card that lets her know how much of a wonderful wife and mother she is. Then on the other half, let your little ones scribble whatever they want on the other side.

A thoughtful gift

The gift is important. It needs to be ‘from the children’ but this doesn’t mean it can be any old tat! You need to put some thought into this. Items that are a real treat, that she might not ordinarily buy for herself but will allow her to pamper herself on Mother’s Day will go down well. Stuck for inspiration? Have a scroll through her Instagram profile

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to see which brands she’s been following and liking most recently to get some ideas. Or check out the link in my biog (sorry for the cheeky plug!)

‘Me’ time

By which I mean ‘her’ time. You’ll have noticed as a parent that personal space is a commodity whose rarity is to be savoured like the most obscenely precious metal known to humankind. Had you known this before having children you’d have boxed it up and stashed it like a Brexit food hoarder. As bad as it is for dads, it’s usually worse for mums though. So make sure mum has

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some time to herself doing something she’ll enjoy. Perhaps buy her a great new book and some delicious coffee or tea for her to savour as you take the kids out. Or run her a bath and find her favourite podcast to listen to on your home device.

You’re now ready to compile a fantastic Mother’s Day! Good luck and see you on the other side!

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- 19th Mar 19

Mother’s Day used to be simple.

You could grab a card at the last minute, maybe some flowers, then offer to make the first cup of tea of the day and that would be considered effort.

But with children, Mother’s Day morphs into a vortex that sucks in the lost souls of dads who sleepwalk towards this now most crucial of calendar dates.

You still have to remember your own mum but beyond that you now have to remember your wife on behalf of your children.

Now you’re probably thinking that this doesn’t sound so hard but add in a bit of sleep deprivation and getting this day right can be trickier than it might seem.

I speak from experience, from a dark time when our first daughter simply refused to look at the back of her eyelids for more than two hours at a time. My lackluster brain meant I precipitated over an omni-shambles of a Mother’s Day!

So I’m writing this to help those bleary eyed of you out there avoid a Mother’s Day disaster.

  • Fail to prepare – prepare to fail

It might only be just under two weeks away but there is still time to make Mother’s Day a success. You just need to start thinking about it NOW! A key part of any celebration tends to revolve around food at some point and Mother’s Day is no different.

Will you go out for food? If so, you need to book somewhere pronto. Will you stay in and eat? Then you better get that online shop done before there are no slots left and you have to shlep around the supermarket yourself.

  • You’re gonna need two cards

One for your mum (remember, I said don’t forget her!) and one for your other half. You’ll need to write a heartfelt message on one half of the card that lets her know how much of a wonderful wife and mother she is. Then on the other half, let your little ones scribble whatever they want on the other side.

  • A thoughtful gift

The gift is important. It needs to be ‘from the children’ but this doesn’t mean it can be any old tat! You need to put some thought into this. Items that are a real treat, that she might not ordinarily buy for herself but will allow her to pamper herself on Mother’s Day will go down well. Stuck for inspiration? Have a scroll through her Instagram profile to see which brands she’s been following and liking most recently to get some ideas. Or check out the link in my biog (sorry for the cheeky plug!)

  • ‘Me’ time

By which I mean ‘her’ time. You’ll have noticed as a parent that personal space is a commodity whose rarity is to be savoured like the most obscenely precious metal known to humankind. Had you known this before having children you’d have boxed it up and stashed it like a Brexit food hoarder. As bad as it is for dads, it’s usually worse for mums though. So make sure mum has some time to herself doing something she’ll enjoy. Perhaps buy her a great new book and some delicious coffee or tea for her to savour as you take the kids out. Or run her a bath and find her favourite podcast to listen to on your home device.

You’re now ready to compile a fantastic Mother’s Day! Good luck and see you on the other side!

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Bradley Gerrard

I’m a 33-year-old cycle-commuting dad, married with two daughters. My day job is financial journalism but my other job is helping my wife run our new gift business aimed at parents-to-be and parents of new babies, Gerrard & Grace (view profile for link). I’m also into my craft – in the beer and coffee sense though, not knitting or origami - and like everyone am determined to not let parenthood get in the way of some awesome travelling experiences.

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